When something you value falls apart, don’t let the experience touch
your inner core.
In
one of the papers this morning I saw the painful statement issued by Jignesh Shah,
the former non-executive vice-chairman of MCX, who is in the middle of the
Rs.5,600-crore payment imbroglio at NSEL (National Spot Exchange Limited): “The NSEL crisis has destroyed everything that I have
worked hard to build over the past two decades. My loss is not just financial
but what has hurt me and my family most is the concerted effort to destroy my
credibility and trust for which I have lived by all my Life.” Shah’s example is
just a case in point. The question here is not who causes a crisis, or a
painful situation, but should always be about how can one work his or her way
out of the situation. And the path to getting out of a messy or painful
situation can be laid more swiftly, more efficiently, only when your inner core
remains untouched.
This
happens to all of us all the time. We get stopped in our tracks by what someone
did to us or said to us. Suddenly we lose all the momentum we had built because
we are socked, and shocked, by what has happened. Let’s say your boss says
something harsh at work. Or does something to deny you a fair appraisal. If you
allow that event or comment to touch your inner core, you will be in grief. You
will lose your peace of mind. And your momentum, your energy levels will be
impacted. Your mind will force you to keep thinking about that person and that
event – so much so that you will be living in that event, and not in the
moment. All this happens because you allowed your inner core to be touched, to
be stirred.
There’s
a way to remain untouched. Which is to focus on what must be done. If it is a
case of unfair treatment at work, look for a new job. If a business crisis has
rocked your Life, focus on putting the business back on track. If a friendship
you value is in disarray, learn to look beyond that relationship. Remember you
can’t control how people will behave or how Life will deal with you. Often
times in Life, whatever happens to you may seem to be very unfair. But when did
Life promise any fair-play?
So
let events and people be just the way they are. You simply move on. Don’t pause
to mourn or moan about what happened. That is not going to help. What will help
is for you to awaken with the pain that the event brings in its wake, refuse to
take it into you, and simply move on! Or “Just”,
as a Johnny Walker label that stares at me from my bar counter says, “Keep Walking…!”
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