Focus on
the issue on hand. Never on the people connected or on the sentiments they
express.
Life’s full
of challenges. Some of them involve the interactions we have with people. There
are some whom we can never escape. Like a short-tempered boss. Or a temperamental
adolescent. Or a depressive spouse. Or an irritating neighbor. When we start
wondering why is so-and-so behaving in such a manner, we lose the plot__and
therefore the opportunity to seek a resolution or find a win-win platform for
both parties. Know that people are different. And it is in people’s nature to
be the way they are. Each of us is created differently. And so is the person
you are having a challenge interacting with. So, if you look at the person and
grieve saying she or he does not meet your expectation, it is an exercise in
futility. For example, if you expect your boss to be polite and dignified with
you__when he is incapable of such niceties__you will suffer. Instead the issue
you have is with the way you are being treated. And if you don’t like it, you
must find yourself a new boss! Meaning, a new job. Simple! Don’t grieve over
the current one. Similarly, a teenager behaving irresponsibly at home is
reflective of her adolescence and not a sign of any disrespect to you nor is
this pointing to your failing in your duty to bring her up well.
There’s a
saying in cricket: “Play the ball, not the bowler.” And we will all do well to
remember this in all situations in Life. When we respect the
issue, the situation, and give it all the attention it deserves, irrespective
of who is causing it, we will always find solutions __ and inner peace!
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