There may be times in Life when you
may not want to have some conversations. You may, in fact, want to run away
from such situations.
But please don’t do that. It is through simple,
honest, conversations, however difficult they may be to have, that you can
attempt to resolve tricky situations or at least get things off your chest,
leading you to peace. The reason why you want to avoid talking to some people
is because you experience them differently. You don’t see them as being open,
having integrity or matching up to your standards of thinking. First, know that
it is absolutely fine to think the way you are thinking about people. You are
normal. Now, that you feel better, consider also the fact that people are
different the world over. Just as you are entitled to your opinion others are
too. And if their opinion does not match yours, so be it. There is nothing
tragic about a difference of opinion or perspective. Don’t dramatize the way
you feel about it.
Instead of conjuring up a non-existent
emotional scenario in your mind, go out there and speak your mind. And if you
don’t want to be the one starting off the conversation, please enjoin if the
other party starts it. Don’t react. Just state what you feel. Don’t
intellectualize, don’t sermonize. Speak from the heart, sincerely, without
fearing how you will be interpreted. Give the situation, and the person you
speak to, dignity. Know that even if you may not be able to arrive at a resolution
immediately, you would have moved in the right direction. You will feel better.
And that’s the first and most important step towards your inner peace and joy.
It is only from your inner joy that you can
create joy in your circle of influence, which includes the person(s) that you
are trying to avoid. Conversations are
not difficult to have. You make situations difficult by not having honest
conversations!
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