As long as you
know it is the truth, always speak it. Because the truth can and must never be
hidden.
But the most
baffling thing about humankind is that we find it very easy to lie, to cover
up, to say what immediately comforts us and the listener, than to speak the
truth. Having spoken what’s easy, what came easy, the ideal situation must be
to not suffer anymore. Yet, most of time, the person who has chosen not to speak the
truth, grieves and suffers. This is what is most tragic. Let’s say you have a
tyrant for a boss. And you wish you could tell him what he was doing was wrong.
Instead you keep praising him or approving of all his nonsensical behavior
because you feel it is easier to pamper him than provide him with constructive
feedback. Now, as long as you are living peacefully having deceived yourself
and falsely pumped up the boss’ ego, there will really be no problem. But if
you continue to feel miserable because you have been saying what you don’t
believe in, then you have a problem. The only solution then is to speak the
truth about your boss, to him!
Contrary to most
opinions, the truth is always respected. Both by the one saying it and by the
one listening to it. But always say it to the one who is directly concerned
with the truth. If you don’t, and choose to speak to a third party, you are
actually promoting gossip. That’s when you are vitiating the atmosphere. For
you, and for the person to whom you intend to speak the truth.
Truth does not
require any crutches. It can stand on its own. And you too can say it without
any fear. But you believe just the opposite is true, in any relationship,
because you don’t want to be
the person saying it. You prefer that someone else bell the cat. Or that a kid,
than you, tell everyone that the emperor is wearing no clothes! That’s
fantastic. If you are comfortable being someone who continues to thrive while
pleasing everyone around, that’s just fine. Then, why are you grieving? Please
don’t. If you are grieving over the state of any of your affairs, and if the
people connected with your Life, need to be shaken awake, then throw the truth
at them. Let them deal with it than you suffer with it! That’s the way to intelligent living.
That’s the way to peace.
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