No hurt or insult will touch you if you don’t allow it to.
Whenever
you feel hurt at what someone tells you, remember it is your ego which is
acting up. You question, often subconsciously, why someone has behaved in a
manner that you don’t endorse. That you don’t subscribe to. Your ego tells you
to fight that behavior. And then the drama begins. You tell the person
something harsh. That person retaliates. Then you must say something in return.
And on, and on, this game of ping-pong goes on. Or you are unable to retort and
so you suffer within. You carry the injury, the wound from the hurt, all the
while. Your ego keeps reminding you of how unfairly you have been treated. It
sets you off on a journey of anger, self-pity and grief. And you let the wound
fester there – causing you more pain, making you suffer more – and more!
But
think of what can happen if you choose to ignore the insult. If you refuse to
let it affect you. What if someone calls you an idiot and you just ignore that
expression totally. Then there will be no hurt. And therefore no suffering. To
reach this state all you need to remember that each one is entitled to their
opinion. If someone expresses his or her opinion, take it on board if it is
worth it. If it will cause agony – drop it. Or rather don’t even catch it. Let
the comment, barb, jibe, insult – whatever, let it pass.
Periodically
check out how well you are faring on this evolutionary journey. Choose a
24-hour period and promise yourself that you will not react or retort to
whatever may be said about you – no matter what the context is or what the
provocation is. Notice that you will feel infinitely better without taking on
board all the comments – about you – that come your way. This definitely works
wonders when it comes to dealing with hurts and insults. But it also is a great
way to stay grounded – especially when a lot of praise is heaped on. If you let
both, insult and praise, to pass, you will never be allowing your ego to be in
the driver’s seat! When the ego is not driving you, you cannot be
touched. Because then, as per Tao, there’s no one to be touched!
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