The truth,
and only the truth, can set you free!
All of us
make mistakes in Life. Sometimes we succumb to temptations. No one who has
lived on this planet has led a mistake-free Life. The big and mighty are no
exceptions. When an unknown or lesser-known person slips, his immediate circle
of influence are the ones that try him or her, pass judgment, and/or forgive
her or him. When a person with a larger-than-Life image makes a mistake, the
world tries her or him.
When you are
being tried by the opinion of others, when you make a mistake, some of that
trial may be what you deserve. Obviously, you caused the conditions, with your
adventurous streak, your lack of discretion, your plain foolishness or your guile,
that led to your trial. But a good portion of your trial by people, either
those in your circle of influence or general public, depending on who you are, may
be based on their perceptions of the truth. In almost all such instances, when
you have erred in judgment, and have wittingly or otherwise, ending up wronging
someone, it is best to own up. Just confess to your transgression, whatever it
may be, and tell the truth, the absolute truth, as you know it.
The truth may
make the already bad situation worse. But it will set you free and give you the
energy and the peace to face the situation.
In recent
times in India, I have admired (with no comment on the nature of his deviant actions
or their impact) how Satyam’s Ramalinga Raju has actually handled his fall from
grace. People say he had no choice. Maybe they are right. But it requires great
personal courage to own up a mistake, especially if you did it willfully, and
be willing to face the consequences__whatever they may be.
Last night I
watched a very unique and lesser-known movie called ‘Hansie’ which is based on
the true story of celebrated and controversial South African cricket captain
Hansie Cronje. The movie, made in 2008 by his brother Frans Cronje and directed
by Regardt van den Bergh, tells the story of Hansie’s rise and fall powerfully.
The synopsis on the DVD’s back cover and the movie’s Wiki Page have this to
say:
“"How do you start
over once you have betrayed a nation's trust?" The news of Hansie Cronjé's
involvement with Indian bookmakers and his resulting public confession rocked
the international sporting community. An unprecedented rise to glory was
followed by the most horrific fall. A tarnished hero fueled the nation's fury. Hansie,
once South African cricket's golden boy, had been stripped of everything he had
held dear: a glorious captaincy, the support of his former team mates and the
respect of a nation. In its place the stinging rejection of cricket
administrators and the humiliating dissection of his life on international
television, made his retreat into depression inevitable. Hansie's bravest
moment in finally confessing his involvement with bookies had suddenly become a
tightening noose around his neck.”
To be sure,
Hansie Cronje, at the peak of his stardom as independent, post-apartheid, South
Africa’s most successful cricket captain, received money from bookmakers, in return
for information. And when Indian police in April 2000 revealed his links, and
those of other South African cricketers, with Indian bookmakers, Hansie came
clean in front of the King Commission, constituted by the South African
government and its Cricket Board, and confessed to his mistakes, accepted
having been dishonest, but reiterated that he had “never thrown a match in return for the
bookmakers’ payments” to him.
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Hansie Cronje at the King Commission hearings (left) and the movie DVD (right) |
The movie
shows poignantly how a man, who speaks the truth, has to deal with its
unimaginable, irreversible, repercussions. Hansie, played admirably by Frank
Rautenbach, is dubbed a ‘criminal’ by a large section of the South African
United Cricket Board, banished by the international cricket community and has
to also deal with his own demons. He is consumed by enormous guilt, has fearful
nightmares each time he tries to sleep and can’t even face himself in the
mirror. His wife Bertha, played beautifully by Sarah Thomson, and his family
are his only support. But he grieves endlessly that he has let them down to.
The shame, the remorse, the fall from personal grace is both palpable, as the
story unfolds, and wrecks Hansie personally.
Then goaded
by Bertha, Hanise goes to meet his mentor on the Cricket Board, Peter (I am
unable to presently recollect his full name or find it online). Peter receives
him with open arms.
A still devastated,
even 18 months after his public confession, Hansie, who is a devout Christian, breaks
down on seeing Peter and asks him: “Will God ever forgive me?”
Peter’s
remarkably enlightening and mature response is something like this (my
recollection): “I believe God forgave you on the day you confessed. You now
need to forgive yourself. You have told the truth. But in your clinging on to
your guilt, you are enslaving yourself. Feel free. Feel liberated. It is
immaterial how people see your truth. The only person who knows you didn’t
throw matches for money is you. And that’s all that matters. If this is the
truth, stop feeling guilty. You have shown extraordinary courage by telling the
truth. Now show it again by living with it, irrespective of what people think
or say of you and your truth.”
Hansie gets
it! And starts over again. His inner peace helps him find his own, true Self.
Magically, he discovers, people around him and the public of South Africa at
large, still revere him as their hero. Not just for the great cricketer and the
captain that he once was but for the courageous human being he now is. At a
football match at his alma mater, Drew College in Bloemfontein, where his
teacher invites him to be the Chief Guest, Hansie is overwhelmed when he
receives as standing ovation from all students, parents and teachers.
He realizes
that the truth has indeed set him free.
Sadly though,
his eventful and beautiful Life, was cut short on June 1, 2002, when the plane
he was traveling in crashed in the Outeniqua mountains due to inclement
weather. At his funeral, his mentor Peter offers a fitting eulogy (as I recall):
“Hansie’s truth set him free and has delivered unto him a peace and joy, now
(in his death), that is beyond the comprehension of us humans.” Interestingly, South
Africans, in 2004, voted Hansie as the 11th greatest South African
ever in their country’s history!
So, when you
are in the eye of a storm, especially when caused by your own questionable
actions, saying the truth, as you know it, may, undoubtedly, make the situation
worse. You may invite unprecedented, often hostile, reactions from unknown
quarters. But still choose to say the truth. And live with it. Because it will
set you free. And where the soul tastes freedom, it finds bliss!
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