There are no right or wrong ways to live your Life. Live it
your way. After all, it’s your Life!
What
caught my attention over veteran Hindi actor Sadhana’s passing on Christmas day
was that she died alone in a hospital
in Mahim, Mumbai – losing her battle with an undisclosed ailment. Her close
friend and actor Tabassum told The Indian
Express’ Sonup Sahadevan that Sadhana, 74, was “very ill and very sad”.
Sadhana’s husband R.K.Nayyar had died in 1995 – the couple had no children.
Sadhana apparently had no relatives and was also embroiled in a bitter legal
case over the house she was living in as a tenant in Khar. Her eyesight in
recent years had been affected by hyperthyroidism.
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| Picture Courtesy: Internet |
Now,
here was a woman who was the heartthrob of millions in India all through the
1960s and much of the 1970s – her famous films included Mera Saaya (1966), Woh Kaun
Thi (1964), Gaban (1966), Mere Mehboob (1963), Ek Musafir Ek Hasina (1962), Hum Dono (1961), Rajkumar (1964), Waqt
(1965), and Ek Phool Do Mali (1969).
She was considered a style diva and her hairstyle, that was aped by many, was
popularly called the ‘Sadhana Cut’.
Did such
a memorable icon deserve such a forgettable end? This is one question that some
of the people writing, commenting, opinionating on Sadhana’s Life and times,
have asked over the last couple of days.
Interesting
question. In trying to answer it, we must consider that Life is all about the
choices we make. And we must remember that Life’s basic principle is
impermanency. Nothing is permanent. What goes up, comes down. What goes down,
comes right back up. So, fame, fortune, friends and family – everyone and
everything, will, at some point, fade away. The choice to live your Life alone
is entirely yours. The choice to perhaps fight a court battle – or whatever –
is entirely yours. The choice to be sad is entirely yours. Just as the choice
to be among people you know, to not fight a court battle and to be happy is
entirely yours!
I am not
here pontificating whether Sadhana made the right choices in her Life. I am
only saying that her choice to do what she did was purely her own. Just as it
is with each of us in the context of our Life’s stories. Osho, the Master, has
explained a simple, practical, way of making decisions and choices in Life. He
says, when decisions come from your head – from the way you are thinking;
emotionally, rationally, whatever – you will often not enjoy the outcome of
your decisions. He says you may even suffer from your choices. But when your
decisions come from your being, he says, when they come from who you really
are, then no matter what the decision is or what outcomes follow, you will be
at peace. So, who are we to judge how Sadhana made her decisions, her Life
choices? Maybe she was at peace living alone and fighting her court battles,
even as she battled failing health. Maybe, if Tabassum’s perspective is brought
into focus, she was not. In fact, with Sadhana gone, it does not even matter
now.
Even so,
there’s a learning here for all of us. Our lives are flowing in the direction
created by the choices we have made. And, as I see it, there are no right or
wrong choices. A decision is a decision. A choice is a choice. And each choice
leads you through an experience that you again learn from. This is
how Life flows…and flows….until it ends…possibly when it merges again with the
source?
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