Each person who comes
into your Life is a teacher.
Everyone is teaching you through not just
what they know, but through their behavior. Some people teach you why you must never trust them. They
have taught you this by repeatedly refusing to live up to the trust you placed
in them. Eventually, you may have reached a point when you would have said that
you can’t trust this person
anymore. And yet you would have given this person one more chance. When your
trust was betrayed one more time, you move from the can’t-trust to the must-never-trust zone. Please know,
there is nothing wrong with you if you come to this conclusion. And there is
nothing inhuman about this stance. To trust humankind and Life is indeed the
best way to live. But to have your self-esteem trampled upon__that’s precisely
what happens when your trust is betrayed__is foolishness. Remember if that
person is a teacher, just as each person in your Life is, then you are being a
bad student if you are not learning from your teacher! You don’t have to hate
the person though. Just don’t trust.
When you don’t trust, there can be no
relationship. You can still know the other person and not be in a relationship.
Now, even if this is a parent, sibling, child, or spouse, it is imminently
possible to stay this way. Because at the end of the day, the person is not
trustworthy. And the person has taught you, given the empirical evidence you may
have gathered through repeated patterns of behavior, that she or he is not
trustworthy. Additionally, let me tell you, from my own experience, that it is
also fine to let the other know that you don’t trust him or her.
So, please simplify your Life. If you have
been let down repeatedly, know that you have a right to choose not to trust someone
anymore. Exercise that right. Live your Life in peace and not in grief. Yet live leaving that
person alone. Don’t fight. Don’t provoke. Just live and let live!
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