Don't approach anything that happens
in your Life from sadness.
A loss. Pain. A heart-break. An insult. All
of them are not what we expect. And so we respond with shock, anger and sorrow.
But after we get over the initial response, we must develop the attitude to
shift the attention to joy. Exult in the opportunity that each of those
surprising, often times even shocking, events has thrown up. A loss always
points to a gain in the future. A loss also teaches you, through your grief,
what is more valuable to you in your Life. You grieve a loss because you attach
a value to it. This awakening to the realization of what's important to you
must call for celebration. And joy, not grief and sorrow!
If someone insults you, you must celebrate
because you have now the opportunity to learn to live with an insult. A
capability that you never thought existed in you. Your spouse tells you that
she or he can't carry on in the relationship with you anymore. Beneath the
obvious layer of shock and tears, it actually opens so many more opportunities
to start afresh in Life. To explore newer horizons rather than be stuck in a
bad relationship in grief, in sorrow, in pain. Joy here means the suffering for
both of you has come to an end. Yes the pain of going through the process of
separation will have to be dealt with. But eventually it too will lead to joy!
So, in effect, there are no sad endings in
Life. Why then be sad about the interludes over which we have no control? A beautiful
song from the John Abraham movie 'Jhoota
Hi Sahi' (2010, Abbas Tyrewala, A R Rahman, Javed Ali, Chinmayi) comes to
mind. It is among the most spiritual songs to emerge from Bollywood recently. The message is simple: Why Cry! Life's too short to be spent
in sadness and worrying!
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