When someone hates you and so hurts you remember that person needs
your understanding and help, not hatred in return.
It is normal, when someone offends you or hurts you,
to try and get even with that person. After all a hurt is always difficult to
deal with, forget getting over! But there’s another way to look at the
situation and the person. Hating and hurting require a lot of negative energy. So,
if someone is causing all that hurt that you are experiencing know that the
person is full of negative energy. Thich Naht Hahn, the Vietnamese Buddhist
monk, says this very beautifully: “When another person makes you suffer,
it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling
over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is
sending.”
I
have learned from experience that hating or hurting in return never helps. It
only keeps the cycle of negativity alive. To expunge the negativity someone has
to break that cycle. And that person can well be you! Whenever I feel hurt or
offended, I send a silent prayer to the person who has caused it. I also try
and reach out to the person and see if we can talk things over. But sometimes
the differences are so deep and immediately irreconcilable that a conversation
may not be possible or help. In such situations, you can let go of the hatred
brewing inside you by sending the person positive energy and prayer. Whenever I
have done this, I have found my anger and my hurt dissipating. I feel peaceful.
Simply, it is not relevant who started it or who is to blame. What is important
is to recognize that clinging on to suffering is futile. It helps no one. While
it may be ideal for both parties to cleanse themselves, if this not possible
for whatever reason, at least one person – you – breaking free from the
negativity is indeed a good step forward!
The essence of intelligent living is to be able to rise above hurt,
hatred and suffering. And to live free, to live fully – a meaningful and blissful
Life!
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