Our lives are tailored to take the most
unpredictable turns. The only way then to live your Life, if you want to be
happy and peaceful, is to be willing to adapt to, adjust with and accommodate
the Life that comes your way.
Someone we know recently
told us that he was preparing for “exploring the unknown” next year, when he
turns 49 and is in his 50th year. So he is getting ready to quit the
trappings of a regular job and take “the plunge”. As I heard him share his
plans, I thought to myself, while it is always good to plan the Life that you
want, it also very important to be willing to accept the Life that you get.
This means we must not cling on to or be rigid about our plans for our lives.
Because there will be times when Life will serve you a menu that you neither
wanted nor ordered!
Consider the story of Anu
Aggarwal, the star of Mahesh Bhatt’s Aashiqui
(1990) and Mani Ratnam’s Thiruda Thiruda
(1993). Her recently launched autobiography Anusual
- Memoir Of A Girl Who Came Back From The Dead (HarperCollins India, 192 pages, Rs.299;
I haven’t read it yet), I believe, candidly takes us through her pretty
eventful Life. She survives a horrifying car crash in 1999, which left her in a
29-day coma. She then takes sanyas –
realizing in the bargain that godmen and their aura are neither true and nor do
they exist. When she comes out to being her own self, “a voice from within
answered”. And that’s how Anusual was
born. Can you even imagine that one of Bollywood’s most successful heroines – Aashiqui which completed 25 years last
month – was literally “gone with the wind”? And had it not been for a bunch of
doctors and Anu’s own fight, she might have been lost in that car crash.
Anu’s story, yet again, tell us this: that you cannot
plan your Life beyond a point. You simply have to live it – taking it as it
comes. Planning is not a crime. But clinging on to the plan, and resisting Life’s
design that often times tears your plans down – that resistance is what will
make you miserable. So, the best mantra is be not just willing, but
ready too, at any time to adapt to, adjust with, and accommodate what Life has
in store for you!
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