Face Life. Don’t fear it!
Worry, anxiety, stress, depression, anger,
hatred are all different incarnations, avatars,
of fear. Your child is not studying well. You worry because you fear that the
child’s future is in jeopardy. Your small business is not doing well and you
are anxious to bag a new customer because you fear that if you don’t, you will
have no money to run the family. You are angry with someone because you fear
that their not meeting your requirements or expectations will affect your
plans. You hate someone because you fear that your opinions, values, your
freedom is violated. So, at the core of all destructive, debilitating emotions
is fear. We fear everything: change, the unknown, risk and reality too!
Recognize the futility of fearing Life.
Your fear is not going to help your child study better or get a customer to
give you a contract or make someone work more efficiently or get anyone to love
you, to appreciate you, to respect you. Look every Life situation in the eye.
Face it. And deal with it. As children we were all scared of dark rooms. We
would hesitate to enter them and require parental help in turning on the
lights. So, how is it that we overcame that fear of dark rooms as we grew
older? Simple. We learned to face that Fear. Because we learned that every room
will have switches that would illuminate them. Learn, similarly, that in every
situation in Life, a switch called trust can bring light and remove the darkness.
Here is a short story with a beautiful
learning for us. A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The
father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, “Sweetheart, please
hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river.” The little girl said, “No,
Dad. You hold my hand.” “What's the difference?” asked the puzzled father.
“There's a big difference,” replied the little girl. “If I hold your hand and
something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold
my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let go of
my hand.”
The essence of trust, as in the little girl’s story, is not in the bind, but in
the bond. To quote Khalil Gibran, the Lebanese-American thinker and writer,
you__and I__and all of humanity, are a creation of Life’s longing for itself.
Believe in, bond with and trust Life to take care of you. This kind of trust
can be transformational. And only such
implicit trust in Life can extinguish fear and teach us how to face Life and
live fully.
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