Don’t fight anyone, any situation in
Life, by struggling, suffering and despairing. Feel deeply, practicing magnanimity,
to understand the person, the situation, that is causing you distress. You will
eventually prevail with love and compassion, than from fighting and engaging in
a battle.
There are so many situations that you__and
I__have encountered, and are perhaps even now facing, when people have been
unkind to us. When they have schemed against us__in business, in families, at
work, in the communities we live in__and have gained an upper hand by embracing
falsehood and by using dishonest means. We have been devastated by the
unfairness of people’s ways. And have become cold, numb and even turned
cynical. We have lost trust in all of humanity perhaps too. We are suffering.
Each one of us is. At times, it is not just individuals, but Life itself that
has been ‘unfair’. A perfect Life has been thrown asunder by a health challenge
or a devastating blow has been dealt to you by death snatching away someone
that meant everything to you. You have never quite recovered from that tragedy.
You are suffering. In either situation, the one caused by people around you, or
the one in which Life dealt with you ‘unfairly’, practice magnanimity. Look at
the person or situation deeply. Understand why that person is doing what she is
doing. The truth is that a mother-in-law who is causing suffering to her
daughter-in-law is actually suffering more. Her actions are actually a
manifestation of her suffering. A boss who is trampling on his team member’s
self-esteem, causing untold misery on the poor professional, is actually
suffering more because of his own Life’s experiences. A rapist who outrages the
modesty of a young teenager is actually representative of a mind suffering from
a huge inferiority complex and craving for attention and love. The one who
causes suffering is already suffering. Know that. And understand that if you
respond with wanting to retaliate, avenge, fight, with
I-will-teach-you-a-lesson attitude, you will only continue this chain of
suffering.
Feeling deeply, practicing magnanimity, is
what will break this chain. It may seem difficult and impossible. How can I be
magnanimous in the face of deceit, dishonesty and a vulgar display of power,
you may ask? I am not Gandhi, I am just a human being, you may argue. The truth
is Gandhi was also a human being. A mere mortal. So was Jesus. But they did not
suffer like you and I do. They ended their suffering by feeling deeply for
those who perpetrated inhuman acts against them. When one side stops fighting,
the other side HAS TO come on the path of love, awakening and peace.
Hate cannot end hate. A fight cannot end a fight. Feeling can, magnanimity can.
The Buddha taught this to his disciple
Rahula thus: “There are four great elements__earth, water, fire and air. Learn
from them, Rahula. Whether
people pour milk or fragrant liquids, deposit flowers or jewels, or pour urine,
excrement, and mucus on the earth, the earth receives them without
discrimination. Whether people throw into water things that are pure and
pleasant or wash in it things of filth and stench, water quietly receives
everything, without feelings of pride, attachment, grievance or being
humiliated. Fire has the ability to receive and burn all things, including
things of filth and stench, without grieving or feeling humiliated. Air has the
ability to receive, carry away, and transform all odors, sweet or foul, without
pride, attachment, grievance or feeling humiliated. Why? Because the earth,
water, fire and air have the capacity to receive, embrace and transform. The
earth can receive excrement and urine because it is immense. It transforms them
into flowers, grass, and trees. Water has immense embracing capacity, is
ever-flowing, and has the ability to receive and transform whatever it takes
in. Fire has immense receptivity and the ability to burn and transform whatever
people bring to it. Air has immense embracing capacity and the extraordinary
faculty of mobility. If you cultivate your heart so that it is open, you can
become immense like the earth, water, fire and air, and can embrace anyone or
anything without suffering.”
Try responding to a person or
situation you are currently grappling with in your Life, with the attitude of
the four great elements__earth, water, fire and air. This does not mean that
you merely accept, and resign to, a situation that is causing you grief or
unhappiness. It means invoking your immense capacity to be magnanimous, to feel
deeply, understand and, therefore, transform your current plight into an
opportunity for abundant happiness. In fighting, you continue to be unhappy.
And suffer. In feeling deeply and embracing with
understanding why some people behave the way they do, you become bliss.
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