To serve selflessly,
compassionately, is one of the greatest qualities of being human. When you have
done that, your Life will have counted.
Over the last several weeks, I have been watching
my wife Vaani care for her dad. He’s 84 and is paralyzed on the left side
having suffered a stroke earlier this year. His speech is impaired too. With an
additionally agonizing prostrate condition, he is bed-ridden. The patient care
team we have recruited to attend to him at home is inconsistent and low on
quality. So, Vaani has had to not just lead the entire 24x7 operation of
looking after him, she has often had to manage every bit of it. Whether or not
the nurse shows up, whether or not the doctor is accessible, whether or not family
members are willing to chip in and help beyond what they want to do, Vaani has
never complained even once. She, in fact, personifies ‘devotion’ through the
way she cares for her father. I must confess that I can never quite achieve her
level of commitment to such a cause. Of course, I support her with all the
logistics required to run the 24x7 operation. And her sister and brother support
us too with the infrastructure and resources. But I believe we are all light
years behind her when it comes to being selfless and unquestioningly
compassionate.
I am reminded of reading what Osho, the Master, had
once said. “Compassion is the purest form of love. You can call compassion
prayerfulness. You can also call compassion meditation.” When I connect what
Osho said to how Vaani is caring for her dad, I can relate to how compassion
works. It heals the one who is being cared for and it energizes the one who is
caring. In effect, compassion is therapeutic. Osho likens being compassionate
to a rain-bearing cloud. He says, “Just like a cloud full of rainwater has to
shower, you too shower compassion because you have it and you have to shower to
unburden yourself. When a rainwater-bearing cloud has showered and the earth
has absorbed, you can hear the cloud saying “thank you” to the earth. Because
the earth has helped the cloud unburden. So, compassionate people are
compassionate to the ones they serve with a deep sense of gratitude.”
I am still learning this way of Life. I am not even
a beginner. I have not even reached the play-school stage. I am just an infant
waiting to be served. But Vaani inspires me. And she humbles me at the same
time. This may appear to be a paean in my wife’s praise. Let me clarify that
this is more than just that. It is a celebration of what it takes to be human. It is an invitation to understand what compassion is. And a
call to learn to be compassionate. If each of us can embrace this quality we
can enhance our humanness. And make our world a lot better than it is today!
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