Only when
you lose yourself, can you find your true Self. Only through a confusion can
you gain clarity. Only when you deal with a crisis, will you awaken to realize
yourself.
There will often be times in Life when
you don’t know what you are doing. Or you will not know whether you are doing
the right thing or not. You seem to be lost. With no sense of direction. Every
aspect of your Life seems broke and broken. It appears that no one wants you,
no one loves you and nothing that you want to work ever works. In such
situations, it is not unusual to feel an emptiness – along with self-pity,
guilt, anger, depression and a sense of dreariness, purposelessness.
I have been through a similar situation
in Life. When my Firm went bankrupt and we were plunged into a dark, hopeless,
penniless phase in Life as a family, one night, I sat in my living room and was
trying to swap channels. I was so disturbed that I was not able to attend to
what I was doing. I was swapping the channels aimlessly not even knowing if I
was understanding what was playing on any of them. At hand, apart from the TV
remote, was a glass of whisky – a friend visiting us from overseas had brought
a bottle of Glenfiddich some days ago. But while I drank my favorite Single
Malt, I didn’t relish it either. Both the channel-swapping and the
whisky-sipping were involuntary actions. I was not mindful of either. That’s
when I turned to my bookshelf which was at arm’s length from where I sat that
night in my living room. Almost involuntarily, I reached out to the Sai Satcharita (a book dedicated to
extolling the Life and teachings of Shirdi Sai Baba). The book had been on my
bookshelf for several years then. But not once had I had the urge to pick it
up, or even read it. But that night I did both – without much thought or
desire, I must quickly confess. I soon found the book ‘unreadable’ – the
English translation is pathetic and getting past each page is sure to
accentuate your suffering, especially if you love English as a language.
But two words stood out. And in the
context in which my Life was placed then, they made imminent sense. Shraddha and Saburi – Faith and Patience. These two words form the cornerstones
of Shirdi Sai Baba’s teachings and in a way hold the key to facing, dealing
with, and living Life. Which is, keep the Faith – that is you have been
created, you will be looked after, cared for and provided for. And while you
keep the Faith, learn to be patient with Life – with people, circumstances and
events.
Inspired by my “discovery” that night, I
began to delve deeper. I embraced a form of meditation called mouna, meaning silence, where you practice
daily silence periods. Through your remaining silent you train your mind to
stay calm, anchored and focused. Along the way, I also turned to Osho, the
Master. I found great value in what he had to say. His teachings pointed me in
the direction of Zen Buddhism – I loved Osho’s practical, real-world,
in-the-face approach. He always managed to distill the essence of Zen in the
context of everyday living. That was indeed useful. As I explored Osho’s
teachings further, and as I hung on to Baba’s two magical words, Faith and
Patience, I found my Life transforming. My problems didn’t go away (they still
are where they were 8 years ago) but my ability to deal with them improved
greatly. Simply, I have learnt to accept my Life and whatever it brings my way,
while making my efforts daily to do whatever is within my control to change my
Life. But when my efforts don’t yield results, I don’t panic, I don’t grieve, I
just try harder the next day. So, in a way, from being totally lost and
confused in Life, I must say, I have found my true Self and have learnt that it
is possible to be happy despite
your circumstances.
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| The Venerable Subul Sunim Abbot of the Beomeosa Monastery in Korea |
Yesterday, we attended a Talk on
Mindfulness at the InKo Centre by The Venerable Subul Sunim, the Abbot of the
Beomeosa Temple in Korea, who is currently visiting Chennai. The Abbot made a very
important point in his Talk which has great relevance to what I have shared
here today: “Meditation can be compared to allowing the sediments in muddy
water to settle, while Zen attempts to eradicate the sediments themselves.”
I can completely relate to the Abbot’s
point of view. The muddy water is the confusion, that lack of clarity that haunts
us when we feel our Life is listless or battle-weary through a crisis (a
relationship break-down, health issues or even loss of a dear one). The
sediments are the emotions we cling on to – pain, anger, jealousy, hatred,
grief and such. So, in my case, while Baba’s two keywords, Faith and Patience,
got me started and mouna helped me
along, it was Osho’s teachings on Zen that helped me let go of all wasteful
emotions.
To be sure, each of us is capable of reaching
this state. But for that, you must let go of all those debilitating emotions
that hold you hostage. Try Zen. It works. As the Abbot said yesterday, “The
purpose of Zen is to awaken to the absolute and to enjoy mindful living
perpetually.” But don’t rush to Zen as if it is a headache pill or because it’s
a nice sounding word or the latest fad. Be hungry to explore and understand the
true nature of Life. Be humble. Approach Life like a good student. As they say
in Zen, when the student is ready – and willing – the teacher appears. And only a teacher, a guru, can dispel the darkness, clear
the confusion and help you see your light – within!
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