Resisting a
situation makes it worse. When you embrace it, for what it is, the pain that
comes with the situation, does not cripple you. It is there. You can feel it.
But it does not affect you anymore.
This is as true for all
situations as it is true of all emotions in Life.
There are times when
you will have that gnawing feeling within you. You know that the way things are
going is not right. You fear a grave situation, a crisis coming up. You don’t
want it. But you are helpless. In such a state, the normal human tendency is to
prevent the situation from happening, from coming up. Then, when you understand
that you can’t stop it from happening, your next reaction is to wish it doesn’t
have to happen. But wishing never helps in Life. Soon, the situation is upon
you. And you are still feeling helpless. But now you are also feeling
miserable. Now, examine the sequence of events. Did you start with feeling
miserable? No. You started feeling anxious. That anxiety gave way to
helplessness. Both anxiety and helplessness thrived even as you made an attempt
to avoid the situation. So, there was a conscious effort on your part. When
your efforts failed and the situation was upon you, that’s when you started
wishing it hadn’t existed in the first place. So, clearly, the wishing led to
the misery, the suffering – not the situation itself. Or simply, a headache
does not cause you suffering, your wishing that you had no headache is what
makes you miserable! Instead, try replacing your wishing with acceptance of the
headache. Lo and behold! The headache will still be there, but you will not
feel miserable having it!
Apply this thought
process to any situation that you have faced in Life or to any suffering that
you are currently experiencing. You will find it applicable in all contexts –
with anyone, with anything that you are having to deal with. You will find that
in each of them, with each situation, when you don’t resist, when you accept,
the misery, the suffering, magically dissolves.
Remember:
accepting a situation, and the attendant pain it brings with it, does not mean
avoiding misery. You are not running away from the situation. By stopping to
wish that it didn’t exist, by accepting it, you are letting your suffering
becoming something meaningful. Something beautiful. This beauty has to be
experienced and understood. Words cannot
describe the feeling you will experience with accepting pain. That feeling is
also called bliss! As Osho, the Master, has said: “Don’t escape from pain, don’t be afraid of it. As you go
through pain and are no longer afraid of it, you no longer feel miserable and
great happiness arises from it.”
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