Defining events as “good”
or “bad” or “ugly” is a human trait. The truth is that there are only
experiences in Life – irrespective of what label we stick on them!
Everywhere that you turn, every social media
platform, all newspapers and magazines, all over television and on FM radio –
there’s so much review of 2013 as it winds down. Events and memories are being
categorized as good, bad and ugly.
I don’t think that’s a very productive exercise. In
fact, at one level, it’s entirely pointless. Whatever has happened is over. It’s
dead and gone. Why review? Why analyze? And, more important, why label what has
happened? You come across a fortune. So, it is good? You get laid off, so it is
bad? Someone you know dies, so it is ugly!? Life is just a continuous set of
events. Or happenings. Each of them teaches us something more, something new
about Life. It is up to us to learn from them. This is the essence of Life.
There’s nothing ahead of or beyond this. Period.
So, when you can learn something from Life, from
each moment, from each experience, how can you label such an event as bad?
Which is why you often hear the older people in your family say, with alarming
equanimity, when they are faced with a grave situation: “Whatever happens,
happens for the good.”
People, including my children, often ask me how can
something painful – like the bankruptcy we are going through – be something
that’s good? And I direct them to what the experience of being bankrupt has
taught me. It has taught me Faith and Patience, it has taught me the value of
money, it has showed me how kind and compassionate people are in this world, it
has brought me closer to my wife and children, it has made me feel grateful for
all the abundance (integrity of purpose and the powerful intent to rebuild the
business and repay all our creditors) in my Life in the face of apparent scarcity
(lack of money)! So, the truth is that while the events in Life may be painful,
ghastly and numbing, experiencing Life through pain can teach you a lot.
Provided you are open to learning from it.
But how does one learn through pain? That’s,
undoubtedly, a fair question. When you are socked by Life, when you are down in
the dumps, when everything you held close to you has been snatched away, the
last thing on your mind is to seek a learning from that experience. But in its apparent
impossibility lies the opportunity. Now, you can’t do anything – in most
Life-changing situations – to put things immediately back. So, the only
opportunity available is to ask yourself what you can learn from the
experience. When you seek to learn, you gain. And that learning makes the
experience of enduring the pain worthwhile!
I remember learning long back that Life is a great
teacher. Because she always gives the test first and the lesson later. Each experience
in Life therefore is nothing but a test. In this test, there’s no GPA (grade
point average – in any case, no one bothers about your GPA once you leave
school!). You
neither pass nor fail in Life’s tests. You only learn. The faster you learn –
and internalize – the faster you graduate to the next test and to the lesson it
has to offer!
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