Focus
on the issue on hand. Never on the people connected with it or on the
sentiments that they express.
Life’s
full of challenges. Some of them involve the interactions we have with people.
There are some whom we can never escape immediately. Like a short-tempered
boss. Or a temperamental adolescent. Or a depressive spouse. Or an irritating
neighbor. When we start wondering why is someone behaving in such a manner, we
lose the plot__and therefore the opportunity to seek a resolution or find a
win-win platform for both parties. Know that people are different. And it is in
people’s nature to be the way they are. Each of us is created differently. And
so is the person you are having a challenge interacting with. So, if you look
at the person and grieve saying she or he does not meet your expectation, it is
an exercise in futility. For example, if you expect your boss to be polite and
dignified with you__when he is incapable of such niceties__you will suffer.
Instead understand that the issue you have is with the way you are being
treated. And if you don’t like it, you must find yourself a new boss! Meaning,
a new job. Simple! Don’t grieve over the current one. Similarly, a teenager
behaving irresponsibly at home is reflective of her adolescence and not a sign
of any disrespect to you nor is this pointing to your failing in your duty to
bring her up well.
There’s
a saying in cricket: “Play the ball, not the bowler.” And we will all do well
to remember this in all situations in Life. When we
respect the issue, the situation, and give it all the attention it deserves,
irrespective of who is causing it, we will always find solutions __ and peace!
No comments:
Post a Comment