Make sure what you say inspires and does not alienate

In Life__particularly in a relationship__never ever say or do anything that you cannot take back.

Almost anybody in a relationship will vouch for the fact that there will be ups and downs. When two people are together there are always bound to be disagreements. And sometimes the aftertaste of a disagreement may linger on. It is important at such times not to use public fora to vent your frustrations. Such issues and disagreements are best cleared and resolved in private. Even if they take a long time. If something is not getting resolved, you are probably addressing the person involved and not the issue. As simple as that. Because there's no issue that two people cannot sit across the table and resolve. So, barring praise for your spouse, partner, companion or friend, there should ideally be no other sentiment made in public. If you can't praise, be silent. But don't ridicule, rib or make statements to get even in public. This applies to marital relationships and also to professional and other personal relationships.

Ideally, the best way to look at someone that you disagree with is to look at what about them, despite all their weaknesses, inspires you. Look for the good in people, you will see and say only good. Because, as someone has wisely said, “A careless word may kindle strife, A cruel word may wreck a life, A timely word may lessen stress, A loving word may heal and bless.”